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A year on, time to refocus…

Afternoon boys and girls,

How’re we all doing?

Just a little post to let you know that my column in the April issue of Attitude Magazine will be my last regular column for the publication. I’ve done a whole year with them now, each month I shared something with you. Right from dealing with my diagnosis in the early days, to writing about World AIDS Day, and even coming out publicly as a proud HIV-positive man. It’s time for a change.

They have a great HIV writers in Stefan Kyriazis and Dr Alex Vass, so I’m leaving you in capable hands.

What’ll I be doing? Well fear not, I’m shan’t be going too far. I plan to spend my time working more closely with LGBT & HIV charities up and down the UK – helping them get their message to as many people as possible. It’s the people on the ground, doing the leg work that make the real difference and that’s where I’ll be focusing my attention.

I also plan to further develop my site with more resources for people living with HIV and for those who want to learn more about it.  If you know a HIV charity, support group or social group that would like to be listed on UKPositiveLad.com please do get in touch.

Hope you all have a great week.

Tom
UKPositiveLad

April 2013 Issue of ATTITUDE Magazine Out NOW

attitude-april-13Afternoon all,

How’re we all doing? What’s that? Speak up I can’t hear you!

Just a little blog post to let you know that the April 2013 issue of ATTITUDE Magazine is out now in digital format, available on iPad, iPhone, Android and pretty much any other device going – you can get your copy here. For those of you who like something to hold in your hand it’ll be on new-stands from this Wednesday 6th March.

This issue our cover star is the stunning James Franco talking about cruising bars, leather and the Wizard of Oz. Zac Efron’s new film ‘The Paperboy’, lots of men in swimwear and my coming out piece. Yes that’s right – this month is the first month you’ll see my face in ATTITUDE Magazine, well all of it anyway. I talk about my journey so far, the support I’ve received and the highs and lows of my short time so far living with HIV.

Check it out!

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Student Pride 2013

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s been a little while since I was a student, six years ago to be precise (oh I feel old), but I was honoured to be invited down to this year’s Student Pride 2013.

For a lot of attendees Student Pride will be the first ‘Pride’ event that they ever go to, so it’s important that the organisers get the weekend right, and that they have done.

There are multiple events, with a little something for everyone. For those that are old enough there are clubbing nights, with special performances from the likes of X-Factor’s Lucy Spraggan, Class A and Capital FM’s James Barr. During the day there are job fairs, theatre productions, live music and debates.

 

 

 

 

 

There will also be sexual health advice and FREE rapid HIV testing available courtesy the good people from ’56 Dean Street’. Make sure to stop by and check your status, it only takes a few minutes and could save your life and the lives of anyone you play with.

Student Pride 2013 runs from 1st – 3rd March 2013 in Brighton on the South Coast of England.  If you’re a student and 16 years ago or more you can GET YOUR TICKETS HERE!

See you there!

Sam
UKPositiveLad

March issue of ATTITUDE Magazine – OUT NOW

attitude-march-13Greetings to you all out there in cyber-space,

Just a quick note to let you know that the March 2013 issue of ATTITUDE Magazine is out now, and wow is it a tasty one! This month is is ATTITUDE’s famed ‘Naked Issue’ – featuring toned torsos and buttocks from the likes of Shayne Ward and Colin Gentry.

But fear not dear reader it’s not all style and no substance, this Naked Issue ATTITUDE have teamed up with NAT (National AIDS Trust) to talk about safer sex, condom use, HIV and the importance of getting tested – a must read.

Oh, and don’t forget my column – this month I talk about how I’m having ups and downs with my medication but how I remain thankful that it’s now, and not 30 years ago. Find out why…

Lots of love,

Sam
UKPositiveLad

Doctor Christian talks condoms…

Well hello there,

This week I’m lucky enough to have a guest post from our favourite TV doctor and fellow Attitude columnist, the handsome Doctor Christian Jessen. In this post we won’t be discussing embarrassing bodies or healthy eating, but rather condoms – the simple tool for safer sex…

We all know that condoms offer us the best protection (98% effective when used properly) from both STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) and unwanted pregnancy, but are you sure that you’re using them correctly?

Don’t be so sure: a study of 1,400 teens by Southampton University found that 6% had put the condom on too late and another 6% took the condom off too soon.

 

Here are some simple DOs and DON’Ts to make sure you’re using your condoms properly:

DOs

  • Only use approved latex or polyurethane condoms that bear the BS Kite mark.
  • Make sure you have the right condom for YOU – just like penises they come in many sizes.
    They can be measured for at home by you and ordered online to save any embarrassment.
  • Check the date before you use it, out of date condoms become brittle and break.
  • Make sure you have the condom the right way round BEFORE you apply it to the head of your penis.
  • With one thumb and finger grip the tip of the condom to squeeze out any air, then use your other hand to roll the condom as far down as you can.
  • Use a water or silicon based lube – this reduces friction and reduces risk of breaking the condom.
  • If you’re having a long session consider taking a break and switching to a new condom.
  • If you’re playing with more than one partner (lucky you) – use a different condom for each person. The same applies to sex toys, put on condom on them and change with every partner.
  • Pull out whilst you’re still hard – making sure to hold the base of the condom.
  • Throw it in the bin, don’t flush it.

DON’Ts

  • Don’t use an out of date condom – they can break more easily, and we don’t want that.
  • Don’t bite condom wrappers open – you may damage the condom inside.
    Remember that long nails can also cause damage to condoms.
  • Don’t unroll the condom until you’re ready to roll it down and over your penis.
  • Don’t use an oil based lube (this includes Vaseline and baby oil) – the oil weakens the condom and can lead to it failing.
  • Don’t re-use a condom, this shouldn’t need saying but we’ll throw it in anyway.
  • Don’t use two condoms at once – the friction between them can tear both condoms.
  • Don’t use a condom and a female condom (or femidom) together for the same reason.

You can buy condoms at supermarkets, pharmacies and most convenience stores, if you’re too shy to do it in person why not order yourself some online from NHS Freedoms, and don’t forget that you can always pick some up for free from your local Sexual Health Clinic.

Good Health,

cjessensig

 

 

 

 

Doctor Christian Jessen

February Attitude Magazine – OUT NOW

Attitude Feb 2013

G’day readers,

Just a quick heads up to let you know that the February issue of Attitude Magazine is now out, both in luscious iPad Edition and good old fashioned print format!

This month’s cover story is West Ham FC’s Matt Jarvis talking about footballs “last taboo” and saying why it’s time that gay players were finally accepted in our national game.

Nigella serves up some tasty treats whilst Louis Smith serves up some moves and works off those calories. How about some gadgets to help you entertain yourself through those January blues? We’ve got those too!

My column this month focuses on whether Valentines day is harder harder for people living with HIV and my experiences with online dating since diagnosis.

So go download your copy from iTunes or dash out and pick up a copy in store!

Have a spiffing Tuesday!

Sam
UKPositiveLad

Attitude Magazine January Edition – OUT NOW

Hello Hello,

The January issue of Attitude Magazine is out today in iPad format, and hits shops next Wednesday (12th December). Yes I know it’s not even half way through December yet, but that’s how things work in the publishing world apparently!

Click here to visit the iTunes Store and get your copy!

In my column this month I go off on a bit of a rant about my privacy or lack there of when it comes to my HIV status. People, it seems, have been gossiping left right and centre and I’m less than pleased – to put it mildly. Seriously, people wonder why there’s stigma still attached to HIV…

Also in this issue you can enjoy an interview with the stunningly handsome Olympian that is Jonnie Peacock, a special on the hottest men in theatre, Rhianna’s 777 Tour and exclusive behind the scenes info from ‘The Hobbit’. Essential reading to stop you going stir-crazy over the holidays…

Have a fun Friday!

Sam
UKPositiveLad

December Attitude Magazine OUT NOW

Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen,

Just a quick post to let you know that the December issue of Attitude Magazine is OUT NOW!

This month there’s not one but TWO pieces from me in the mag, as well as my monthly column, in which I have a good old rant, you’ll find a World AIDS Day feature from yours truly about living with HIV and what World AIDS Day means to me in 2012.

As you’d expect from a December issue there’s plenty on Christmas, parties, shopping and an interview with the very lovely John Whaite of Great British Bake Off Fame (as featured on the front cover).

So what’re you waiting for? Pop down the shops and grab a copy, or if you’ve got an iPad why not download the funky interactive iPad Edition?

Season’s Greetings!

Sam
UKPostiveLad

Attitude Magazine – September Issue OUT NOW

A weary Wednesday greeting to you all,

Just a quick post to let you know that September’s issue of Attitude Magazine is now available for download to your iPad/iPhone! The print copy will be available in all good magazine emporiums by the end of the week/beginning of next week.

This month I talk about the one year anniversary of my HIV diagnosis, what’s happened since then and what the future holds for me. This month is also the ‘Style’ issue – those who know me are well aware I’m barely capable of dressing myself in an acceptable manner much less being “bang on trend” when it comes to style, but for all you budding fashionistas this is the issue for you!

Be sure to let me know what you think, either here in the comments, via email or on twitter!

Love,

Sam
UKPositiveLad

Attitude Magazine August Issue – OUT NOW

Good morning Ladies and Jellyspoons,

Just a quick post to update you that the August Issue of Attitude Magazine is OUT NOW – including, of course, my column on life with HIV. This month I focus on how being diagnosed has left me scared of sex, and how I’m dealing with that.

To celebrate London Olympics 2012 there’s plenty of sporting goodies inside, with the obligatory scantily clad men.

You can get it now on iPad edition, or it will be in stores from this Friday 27th July.

Please let me know what you think, feedback and thoughts are always welcome, either in the comments below, on twitter or email sam@attitude.co.uk

Thanks for reading,

Sam
UKPositiveLad