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Last week’s Gaydio chat – now available to listen to online!

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Last week I was in Manchester from Thursday to Sunday. I attended a great event run by LGF, and got a chance to visit Chris & Emma in the Gaydio Studio!

It made a nice change from chatting with them on the phone! I spoke about my big disclosure, the ‘functional cure’ story concerning 14 patients in France, my appearance on BBC World News and the first birthday of rucomingout.com

As before you can download and listen to the show in MP3 by clicking HERE :)

If you want me to appear on your show please don’t hesitate to get in touch using the contact page on this site.

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Tom
UKPositiveLad

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A year on, time to refocus…

Afternoon boys and girls,

How’re we all doing?

Just a little post to let you know that my column in the April issue of Attitude Magazine will be my last regular column for the publication. I’ve done a whole year with them now, each month I shared something with you. Right from dealing with my diagnosis in the early days, to writing about World AIDS Day, and even coming out publicly as a proud HIV-positive man. It’s time for a change.

They have a great HIV writers in Stefan Kyriazis and Dr Alex Vass, so I’m leaving you in capable hands.

What’ll I be doing? Well fear not, I’m shan’t be going too far. I plan to spend my time working more closely with LGBT & HIV charities up and down the UK – helping them get their message to as many people as possible. It’s the people on the ground, doing the leg work that make the real difference and that’s where I’ll be focusing my attention.

I also plan to further develop my site with more resources for people living with HIV and for those who want to learn more about it.  If you know a HIV charity, support group or social group that would like to be listed on UKPositiveLad.com please do get in touch.

Hope you all have a great week.

Tom
UKPositiveLad

I’m a boomerang!

Hello all,

As some of you know I’ve had some sad news over the last couple of days. I’m not one to let me get it down though, I mean I’ve had to deal with shit since as long as I can remember – and especially since I was 13. But I always bounce back.

This song, ‘Boomerang’ by Nicole Scherzinger, kinda sums up how I’m feeling at the moment. The tune is upbeat and the lyrics really hit home as well.

 

 

To those of you trying to drag me down, screw you – you’ll get yours I promise, karma is a shit.

Here’s to a excellent weekend in Manchester.

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Sex Tips Live with LGF in Manchester this Thursday

sextipsliveThis Thursday (21st March 2013) is LGF’s ‘Sex Tips Live’ night at the Eagle Bar, Manchester.

Hosted by the handsome Martin Coops Cooper the night promises to be a fun filled affair in game-show format – it will test how much you know about sex, safer-sex and how to get the most out of your man! There’ll be fun, games and prizes – not to mention alcohol. Plus visiting hunks from Manhunt.net on the premises. Oh and I’ll be there – in leather. What’s not to like?

The bar opens at 5pm and the fun kicks off around. The fun and games start around 8pm. Entry is free.

Come along, you just might learn a thing or two ;)

For directions check out The Eagle Manchester’s website

For more on the Lesbian & Gay Foundation (LGF) check out their site.

See you then,

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Talking me, HIV and medication on BBC Worldwide News

Hi Guys,

This evening I was invited to go into the studio and talk about my life with HIV and how it affects my life – both physically and emotionally. This was off the back of the news that fourteen HIV+ patients in France have managed, after very early diagnosis, been able to successfully control their Viral Loads without the further need for medication.

I’ve done radio a few times before, but it was my first time on TV – so I apologise about seeming a little nervous! BBC Worldwide News reaches over 350m homes – so I felt a bit exposed!

Hope you like it.

Tom
UKPositiveLad

You’re a lovely guy… but…

As a single man I dread those four little words. They seem to be the standard prefix to the word “but” followed by a reason they can’t/don’t want to date you. I can’t even begin to remember all the various versions I’ve heard. Here are just a few:

  • You’re a lovely guy BUT you’re not my type
  • You’re a lovely guy BUT we’re in different places
  • You’re a lovely guy BUT you live too far away
  • You’re a lovely guy BUT I already have a boyfriend
  • You’re a lovely guy BUT I’m not looking for anything right now
    …and of course…
  • You’re a lovely guy BUT you’re HIV+

After a while you start to wonder whether people even mean it when they say “You’re a lovely guy”, or is it just a conversational reflex? A way of trying to cushion the rapidly approaching bad news or perhaps make themselves feel better about the information they’re about to impart? I even found myself about to say it last night – I caught myself just in time but hated myself a little for almost saying it.

It never ceases to amaze me the number of rude/obnoxious/unpleasant guys who’re in relationships (or at the very least getting laid) whilst the more genuine and personable amongst us are left on the scrapheap. Perhaps I’m doing something wrong? Perhaps I should be less “lovely”? Truth be told  I’m not sure I can change this far on in life – I’m stuck in lovely mode. Lovely but lonely.

*shakes fist*

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Good Vibrations – The LGMCe and Positive East

Afternoon all,

A quick event update for you all:

Positive East and the London Gay Men’s Chorus ensemble announced that they will be putting on
another show together to raise funds for the charity’s HIV support services for gay men in London.
The show is called Good Vibrations, and takes place in St Pancras Church on Saturday 13th April.

Following on from last year’s spectacular show the Chorus will put on another night of show

stopping tunes, with the usual extent of razzle dazzle people come to expect from the London Gay
Men’s Chorus!

Positive East and LGMC’s aims are deeply intertwined: both are working to change negative
preconceptions, and work towards a more enriched society.

The event will raise funds specifically in support of Positive East’s services for gay men in London.
It’s estimated that 1 in 12 men in London gay are HIV positive. There are more gay and bisexual men
living with HIV in London than ever before. This makes the work of Positive East, and their network
of one-to-one and group support sessions, more important than ever before.

It’s vital that people don’t become isolated from their communities as a result of their HIV status,
and supporting this event will help make sure that doesn’t happen.Tickets for this one-off show are available online, at www.ticketsource.co.uk/positiveeast

For further information you can call the box office on 020 7791 9353.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All the best,

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Latest Blood Results – March 2013

G’day Lads and Lasses,

Yesterday I went to my local HIV Clinic at the lovely Queen Elizabeth Hospital Birmingham. I popped in to get the results from my routine blood-work I had done last week.

My consultant gave me my latest figures: My CD4 is up from 534 to 627 (yay) and my Viral Load remains undetectable (double yay).

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Now for those of you who aren’t au fait with the terminology here are some a couple of quick explanations from aidsmap.com:

  • T-cells (or T-lymphocytes) are white blood cells that play important roles in the immune system. There are two main types of T-cells. One type has molecules called CD4 on its surface; these ‘helper’ cells organise the immune system’s response to bacteria, fungi and viruses. The other T-cells, which have a molecule called CD8, destroy cells that are infected and produce antiviral substances.HIV is able to attach itself to the CD4 molecule, allowing the virus to enter and infect these cells. Even while a person with HIV feels well and has no symptoms, billions of CD4 cells are infected by HIV and are destroyed each day, and billions more CD4 cells are produced to replace them. Doctors use a test that ‘counts’ the number of CD4 cells in a cubic millimetre of blood. A normal CD4 count in a healthy, HIV-negative adult can vary but is usually between 600 and 1200 CD4 cells/mm(though it may be lower in some people).
  • Viral load is the term used to describe the amount of HIV in your blood. The more HIV there is in your blood (and therefore the higher your viral load), then the faster your CD4 cell count will fall, and the greater your risk of becoming ill because of HIV. Viral load tests measure the amount of HIV’s genetic material in a blood sample. The results of a viral load test are described as the number of copies of HIV RNA in a millilitre of blood. But your doctor will normally just talk about your viral load as a number. For example, a viral load of 10,000 would be considered low; 100,000 would be considered high.
  • All viral load tests have a cut-off point below which they cannot reliably detect HIV. This is called the limit of detection. Tests used most commonly in the UK have a lower limit of detection of either 40 or 50 copies/ml, but there are some very sensitive tests that can measure below 20 copies/ml. If your viral load is below 50, it is usually said to be undetectable. The aim of HIV treatment is to reach an undetectable viral load.But just because the level of HIV is too low to be measured doesn’t mean that HIV has disappeared completely from your body. It might still be present in the blood, but in amounts too low to be measured. Viral load tests only measure levels of HIV in the blood, which may be different to the viral load in other parts of your body, for example in your genital fluids, gut or lymph nodes.

The dietician is slightly concerned about my weight however, I used to weigh between 62 and 64kg (that’s 9st 10lb – 10st in old money) and now I weigh 56Kg (8st 11lb). So they’ve put me on a new diet – where essentially they want me to be eating all day long. Lots of things rich in sugar, fat, dairy and protein. Not sure how I’m going to afford that mind!

To combat the rising number of cold-sores I’ve been getting too my consultant has put me on a daily dose of Valaciclovir to combat those at the root cause, hopefully we can get that under control too. All in all a pretty productive trip to the hospital, all done for four months now!

Until tomorrow lovely people,

Tom
UKPositiveLad

April 2013 Issue of ATTITUDE Magazine Out NOW

attitude-april-13Afternoon all,

How’re we all doing? What’s that? Speak up I can’t hear you!

Just a little blog post to let you know that the April 2013 issue of ATTITUDE Magazine is out now in digital format, available on iPad, iPhone, Android and pretty much any other device going – you can get your copy here. For those of you who like something to hold in your hand it’ll be on new-stands from this Wednesday 6th March.

This issue our cover star is the stunning James Franco talking about cruising bars, leather and the Wizard of Oz. Zac Efron’s new film ‘The Paperboy’, lots of men in swimwear and my coming out piece. Yes that’s right – this month is the first month you’ll see my face in ATTITUDE Magazine, well all of it anyway. I talk about my journey so far, the support I’ve received and the highs and lows of my short time so far living with HIV.

Check it out!

Tom
UKPositiveLad

Student Pride 2013

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s been a little while since I was a student, six years ago to be precise (oh I feel old), but I was honoured to be invited down to this year’s Student Pride 2013.

For a lot of attendees Student Pride will be the first ‘Pride’ event that they ever go to, so it’s important that the organisers get the weekend right, and that they have done.

There are multiple events, with a little something for everyone. For those that are old enough there are clubbing nights, with special performances from the likes of X-Factor’s Lucy Spraggan, Class A and Capital FM’s James Barr. During the day there are job fairs, theatre productions, live music and debates.

 

 

 

 

 

There will also be sexual health advice and FREE rapid HIV testing available courtesy the good people from ’56 Dean Street’. Make sure to stop by and check your status, it only takes a few minutes and could save your life and the lives of anyone you play with.

Student Pride 2013 runs from 1st – 3rd March 2013 in Brighton on the South Coast of England.  If you’re a student and 16 years ago or more you can GET YOUR TICKETS HERE!

See you there!

Sam
UKPositiveLad